I haven't been "skinny" for very long. When I joined the Garratt Program and with the research I did on weightloss surgery I was warned that friends come and go. Relationships change, people get jealous, unsupportive, they will sabotage you(food wise), and gossip. It can be hurtful and destructive. On the other hand with weightloss and being more self confident new relationships can be formed or re connecting with friends from the past. I have always been a bubbly happy person but was mostly a home body because I was embarrassed of the way I looked, I was embarrassed to go out in public. If I was invited to an event, coffee or dinner I would usually make up an excuse as to why I couldn't go. I missed out on so much! As the weight started coming off I started to want to go out and enjoy other's company. I still have a lot of friends from when I was FAT that have supported me the whole way thru but I have lost some friends as well. I have re connected with friends from high school, old friends that I met from my previous marriage and have started to make new friends (friends of friends, people I have met out in public, friends of family). Male, female, gay, BI, straight....I don't judge. If we have fun together and you can hold a good conversation with me....your someone I want to spend time with. This is an old friend on mine...Rick who I met when I was 16. He dated a good girlfriend of mine in high school. We had a lot of fun back in the day. He has since moved to Surrey (45 min away) but we still keep in touch on Facebook. I went to the Canada Celebrations in Surrey...something I would have never done pre weight loss. He had mentioned he was going to be there as well but what was the chance that we would bump into each other in a crown of 50,000 people. Well we did!! I have a selfie to prove it!! We can pick up exactly where we left off, we haven't hung out in nearly 10 years. I met Bobbie 1 1/2 years ago at one of the offices I work at. We instantly hit it off. Despite being almost 10 years younger then me we get along amazingly. She met me before my weight loss journey and our friendship has continued despite us not working together any more. Michelle is another good friend of mine. We met 8 years ago when she moved into the same townhouse complex as me. We hit it off right aways...I remember having Allie in my arms and greeting Michelle as she was moving in. She has since moved to Fort St John and has started her own family but we keep in touch and she will be in Chilliwack next month! She has been a great source of support thru the years and has seen my struggles with weight. My cousin Amy...who says family can't be friends. Obviously we have known each other our whole lives...played together as kids and continue to do so as adults. In our 20's we had some pretty good nights out at Tornado Joes..being labelled the "Kissing Cousins". She has been nothing but supportive of my journey as well. She has her own weight loss journey to be proud of..."SKINNY LEOPARDS"
These are just a few of the amazing people that are in my life and have been nothing but happy and supportive. I look forward to maintaining these friendships and meeting new people. One thing that seems to always cross my mind with new relationships/friendships...would they have liked me when I was fat? Some people that I have connected with from the past....I felt like I never existed or mattered to them but now all of a sudden as a normal sized person they want a friendship. I've heard excuses like they don't remember meeting me...which could very well be true. But part of me always thinks if I want a friendship with a person that wouldn't have been my friend when I was fat.
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